What We Learned In Our Second Year Of Marriage

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We did a lot of amazing things during our second year of marriage, we had some hard times and some wonderful times, lots of laughter and so many amazing adventures.

The past year was hard for us, we had a lot of decisions and sleepless nights, I spent a lot of time leaning on Randy and he was my rock the entire time. 

One thing I've been thinking about lately is our second year of marriage compared to our first. I hear so many people say their first year of marriage is just bliss and wonderful, and while our first year of marriage was great, it was SO HARD. Especially compared to the second year! Randy and I had known each other for ages, so there wasn't a romantic and honeymoon phase of getting to know each other, it was figuring out how to live with someone that we already knew super well. Some of the quirks and things were endearing, but a lot of them we already knew about each other and they were magnified by living together! We were learning an entirely new aspect, we had a past that integrated into our daily lives, and it was a lot of work. 

The biggest thing I have learned in our second year of marriage is to LET THINGS GO. We don't fight about petty little things, we've worked on being slow to anger and quick to forgive, we try to make each other laugh to cool off tempers, and it's better to walk away and let it settle down instead of hashing and re-hashing things out.

The most important thing I learned is that I need Randy like I need air. He is my absolute best friend and the one person that I completely and totally rely on, and he completely and totally relies on me. And that's a perfect balance that we love. 

Marriage is work, but it's the best kind of work. Work that I wouldn't trade or give away for anything in the world. I absolutely adore Randy and wouldn't change a single thing about our marriage, our love, or our eternity.

This second year has been absolutely beautiful. Randy and I have spent countless nights laughing our heads off, singing and dancing in the car, and I've discovered a piece of myself, a confidence and a love that I didn't realize I was missing. 

Randy is my forever and my fling, my shelter and my storm, the air I need and the reason I can't breathe, all rolled up into one perfect husband. 

One of my very favorite poems by ee cummings describes it better than I can:

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
                                                      i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

Happy 2 years, love. 

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